10 rules of dating
Watching women stumble around the dating scene can be cringeworthy.
The mistakes some women make are so obvious to their friends looking in from the outside, but not to the poor soul trying to find love.
It may be the fourth date before you can really see the inner person. Beauty fades, but the inner qualities improve with age for those people who are willing to refine themselves throughout a lifetime. There is no Prince or Princess Charming and happily-ever-after without effort. Volunteer your time to help families and the lonely elderly in your neighborhood. Then ask for guidance about your problems and dating decisions. Strengthen your relationship with your Creator so that your priorities are clear when you are dating. Our sages tell us that 40 days before we are born, a heavenly voice calls out for each person, "This soul, So-and-So is destined to marry that soul, So-and-So! Even if you feel you missed your destiny - don't worry. She prayed and wept and begged that her destiny be changed. Her prayers were so effective that she married Jacob first.
Many successful marriages have resulted when reluctant people were willing to give the other person a second chance. "Don't touch" is the way to come closer to developing the emotional intimacy that is neccesary for a relationship to blossom into marriage. Make a rule that you won't touch for the first 30 days. 5,761 years ago, the Jews were betrothed to G-d at Mt. Practice giving as much as you can and you will be well-prepared for marriage which is all about giving. The Jewish wisdom tradition teaches us to seek a Jewish spiritual counselor who knows Torah law and lives by it. Then you will not make a mistake in your choice of whom to marry. The Torah tells us that our Matriarch, Leah's eyes were weak. I have an e-book to help you get really clear about who you are and what you're in this world to do, so that you can communicate this clearly to your soulmate.
How about someone who has endured a series of failed relationships, is struggling to make better choices, and has recently been transferred to a new job where options for a partner are minimal?
How could I compress so many unique stories into one set of helpful rules?
Use this time to develop yourself into the kind of partner you want to be, and to attract If half the soul is Jewish, the other half is also Jewish. If you cut an apple in half and hide one half, forever and always, its other half will be apple - not orange, not pear, not egg. Make sure your goals and values are not on a collision course.
Relentlessly battered by media-overwhelm, online dating challenges, and a plethora of books, they no longer know what or who to believe.If you want to meet your soulmate, you first have to be willing to meet your own soul.